He was 78 when he died from COVID-19 on Dec. 24. That was just four months after he celebrated his 50th wedding anniversary with his wife Kathy. Don’t brag to fellow parishioners how “Close you guys are” as then that creates animosity or jealously – and THAT stresses the priest out.” 16. Sometimes this mistreatment happens without parishioners even knowing. So what I would tell people is if you find a parish where you have a good priest, support him in every way you can, including financially. Don’t let people push him around. Don’t expect to be the priest’s friend – he is your pastor/assistant and he needs to keep things professional. There are several hundreds of other people who bring friends and family to Mass. All my friends can easily name priests who were/are controlling and narcissistic, relishing power over. “Don’t think that you have to have the priest over every Sunday. Rev. But, one time, my friend woke me up because he was bothered by our neighbor’s loud noises. Canon Dan Webster , a Episcopal priest in Baltimore, MD is a big advocate of ministers connecting with parishioners in social media and tweeted: Friend as many parishioners as possible. Deaf Priest Shares Joy With His Parishioners. Defend him to your friends who gossip about him. I had male lay and priest-friends but no female friends in my life. But starve the diocese and make it known you are doing so. In “Pastor, not friend” (Jan. 9), M. Craig Barnes argues that pastors cannot truly be friends with parishioners. Perhaps they’re busy being priests. So, I prayed to God that I might find a woman and develop a friendship with her. Use it to inform/enlighten/build community. Knowing that I can… I know you might be hurt, but you should think about him if he is truly a friend. “Can you be sure to say _____ in your homily, I have (family, friends) coming with me.” Just let the priest say his homily. Many parishioners noted he had been taking care with pandemic precautions and had urged his congregation to do similar. Fr Paddy Byrne, a priest … But I can’t embrace the stance of not having parishioners as friends. In May 2019, friends and family celebrated his 50th anniversary as a priest. ... A priest can … 12. Your priest needs the chance to be “off-duty” on a regular basis, not only with a few fellow priests when they can squeeze in a lunch once every few weeks, but also with his parishioners, and to be friends … Act like a friend and let him go to service God as God wants him to serve Him.--- Religious Priests have each other to help keep a holy eye on each other. 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